ANSWERS LIES WITHIN

Hello friends.

It has been months since I felt like writing anything here. The battle I was (am) going through has been real tough. There have been too many questions; the answers are unknown to many of them yet. I've been searching the answers to all these since long. Hummm!

My world is around students. So most of the things I go through are related with either students or the study.

It was a real challenge for me to continue teaching since the beginning of this year (2013-14) as I had several apprehensions for my own abilities to teach. It was really gloomy that I started the session (2013-14) with a mind full of doubts. I didn't know anything I was doing. I was unsure of why I was doing this or that then.

I have always said to my students that "I teach with my Heart, not with the mind". And here, the Heart was full of Hurts. Moreover, the mind was in doubts. No one to blame, I was myself responsible for my such debacle. It would have been good that I was little more tough in taking decisions (during 2012-13) but, it was Better that I was not so. For, it caused me to face more challenges and be in more pain. 

Thanks to those people who gave me the Time to adjust. It was due to their denial that pushed me to go within for the search of answers; due to these persons I faced the Real (Fake) world around us. They helped me to be what I am today. Well, I mean : a little more Practical. Thanks a lot to all of you. 

Thanks in particular to Someone for whom I wrote this.

Although, not all my doubts are cleared but as they say : "Time heals everything; just give some time to the time." I'm sure that I would be having the answers I'm looking for.

At last (but not least), Thanks Lord that I am a Better Teacher now!

Exam Planner & Stress Reliever

Dear students,

The Board examinations are fast approaching. And they are almost here. For almost one and half months, many students around will be tested upon their learning abilities. I am sure that you would have prepared well for your exams with high energy and better planning. Yet, there may be times when you may experience inexplicable slump in your study routine. Here we shall try to see how to renew your enthusiasm.

Due to the board examinations (or any examinations), students keep busy with their study schedule. Most students follow a pattern of preparation for examinations, which involves studying for 4-5 hours continuously in  a stretch. This sometimes might bring on tremendous stress, either because they are not able to keep up with the gruelling routine, or realise that in spite of studying hard, they are not really learning. They are dejected, disheartened or simply slump. Many a time, even the most motivated students experience a slump.

What should we be doing?

— Accept yourself. Everyone has a peak level; the optimum level, that is, when you are fully motivated. Same way, sometimes you energy levels will be low. Accept the phase. Take the remedial course of actions as mentioned in below lines.

— Motivate yourself. Develop the ability of seeing the success you so much crave for, visualise a successful outcome. Have tremendous faith in your ability to perform.

— Are you trying to adopt a different way of learning during the exams? I advise you to stick to the plan you earlier had. If that plan didn't work, you may discuss the future course of action with elder brother/sister/parents/teachers. Maybe, they can offer you a better plan. At last you have to take the decision, what to follow and what not.

— Monitor your physical state; “listen to your body". Have a brief time-out as and when required, after a long study hour. Take an hour or two off from studies and relax. Do things you otherwise like to do.

— Avoid heavy physical activities, it may lead to fatigue or lingering illness. Eat nutritious meals.

— Are there some non-academic issues? Maybe some unresolved issues are causing you to slow down. Please, leave these issues to be sorted out after the exams.

Preparing for Board examinations is hard, stressful, and slump is serious. But it is surprising how often the suggestions described can get you on course. Parents need to take note of why slump happens and help their wards in taking the much-needed break to overcome it, instead of mercilessly driving them to a punishing routine.

A special message. Even if some of your papers don’t go the way you thought or you think you could’ve done better in a certain question of certain subject, please try to be at ease. Don’t be disappointed. Take it as a lesson for your next exams. Try again with more determination eliminating your mistakes. Remember, every one commits mistakes. But those who take the right lessons from their past actions, they emerge as Champion!

I know you are a champion!

Cheers!!!

— OP Gupta, MathsGuru

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Why Do People Love You Or Hate You

Do people love or hate who you are or what you have to offer? Read the story.

Once upon a time, soaring high in the blue sky, gliding on its wide wings, hundreds of feet above a pristine lake, a young eagle was scanning for food. It spotted a fish swimming in the crystal clear water. Without a moment's delay, it dived and preyed on the fish grabbing him with its sharp claws. It thought of flying to a high ground so it could sit and dine on its catch in peace.

Barely had it taken off though when a number of eagles, a whole convocation, started chasing it. They were bigger in size and more experienced in hunting. The young one tried hard to hold onto the fish, it haplessly flapped its wings to fly far away but the other eagles continued their brutal attack. Driven by their own hunger, they were willing to kill the young eagle. It got badly wounded, some of its feathers got dislodged from its body and it was bleeding at many places. In between this snitching and snatching, tired of fighting against other birds, it lost hold of its game.

With great speed the fish fell towards the ground. All the other birds left the young one alone and went straight for the fish instead. To the surprise of this eagle, no one was after its life anymore, they were not hurting him any longer. It flew to a nearby tree. Sitting on a branch, examining the wounds, a realization dawned on him:

"I thought they hated me and that's why they were attacking me. I really believed they hurt me because they didn't like me. The truth is they had nothing to do with me. It was not about me. It was simply about the fish. It was all about what I had and not what I was."

People do not love you or hate you. It is not actually about you. It is not "who" they love, it is "what" they love, it is not "who" they want, it is "what" they want. They are not after you, they are after what you have in you.

When you are no longer able to offer what they want or when they no more want what you have, their love starts to fade away. This is why people can grow out of relationships. So many times readers write to me that their partner is good, that they want to stay in the relationship but they are just not motivated. Well, it means the priorities have changed. Sad but true.

Nature has evolved based on needs. Sustenance of relationships is often dependent on what people have for each other. Species have survived because they took care of themselves. It is ingrained. Believe it or not, if you want someone to love you constantly, you have to keep offering what they want. You have to keep modifying according to their needs. I am not just talking about care, kinship and bond, I am talking about love. Especially, if their love is dependent on fulfillment of their own desires or needs, they will continue to love you as long as you have the capacity to fulfill them.

When you offer them what they do not want, they become disinterested in you. Imagine sitting on a pile of gold and offering it to a monkey, envision offering bundles of grass to lions, they are not interested. When they become uninterested in what you have, they grow out, they move on. Their interests vary based on their priorities. Imagine offering food to someone who just had a full meal; not interested. Does selfless love exist? Yes. It is a rarity though. Selfless care is more common. When you want someone to love you the way you love them, you are asking for a little too much. Because, for them to love you back the same way, they would have to be exactly like you, they would need to want what you want, they would need to lose their own identity.

The young and rich widow says to Mulla, "Will you always love me this much?"

"The sun may rise from the west," said he, "but my love for you can't go down even by an ounce."

"Well, my in-laws have filed a suit against me and I'm likely to lose all my wealth."

"That doesn't bother me," Mulla said confidently, "I may never see you again but I'll never stop loving you."

Words are easy. The fact is most worldly relationships are held together by a degree of self-interest. Such self-interest is not always material, it may be in the form of intangible things like emotional and moral support etc. I am simply stating a fact without tagging it good or bad, right or wrong.

When someone hates you, just know that they only hate what they do not understand about you. Be it another person, a religion, a philosophy, an ideology, you can only ever hate what you do not understand. As soon as you understand something, you develop either love or compassion towards it. Why does a child hate green vegetables? The same child when grown up, happily drinks wheat grass juice, willingly munches on distasteful raw greens. Why? Interest, need, understanding? Need I say more?

So, you have two choices. One, either be yourself, ever doing the right karma, be happy with varying degree of love you get or, two, keep adapting, adopting and asking for more. The first one is synonymous to turning inward and the second one is insatiable, a bottomless pit, an endless pursuit.

Courtesy :

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सफलता – जीवन का लक्ष्य ?

बहुधा ऐसा होता है

कोई मनुज यूं असफल होता है,

सुघ-बुध अपनी खो कर 

निराश उसका मन होता है; 

पर प्रिये, ईश की ही तो इच्छा है, 

जो हुआ वो अच्छा है.. 

परन्तु फिर, 

शायद ही ऐसा होता है 

मनुज वो श्रम ऐसा करता है 

जग में उजाला सूर्य जैसे भरता है..

निराशा की कालिमा छँटती ह यूं 

गृष्म में बादल तरसते है ज्यूं.. 

माना हे प्रिये, 

आकाँक्षा अकारण नहीं होती  

श्रम करो परन्तु, खुश रहो..

आखिर सफलता ही जीवन का मंजिल नहीं होती.!

Teri Nishani

Jo Ache Hain, Unki Kahani Bhi Achi,

Ladakpan Bhi Acha Aur, Jawani Bhi Achi..

Tera Teer Apne Seene Me Chubho Lu,

Pr Kyu?

Kyuki Tera Nishana Bhi Acha Aur Teri Nishani Bhi Achi.!

Try & try till you succeed..,

Imagine that there is a journey you would like to make. It ultimately will take you to the realization of a dream. But you're hesitant. You wonder why you should even bother. After all, you don't have everything you'll need to make that journey. You may not even be sure you have the stamina, or the talent, or the courage. But believe me, you do have. You've everything you need inside of yourself. And any external resources you're currently lacking will be supplied to you if you only ask the universe i.e., almighty God!

In the course of realization of your dream, at times your energy levels are high as you gear up for new events. However, there may be chances sometimes that these events not meet your expectations. But, don't lose hope and never get disappointed. Keep your spirits high. Implement the first lesson learnt in the school i.e., Try & try till you succed!

Can you get blood from a stone?

Sometimes someone in your life comes off as very tough and unreachable. Although this person is someone you love or care for, it's really hard to get close to this person. This individual has so much to offer and, forging a deeper bond with her would be great for both of you. So how can you get blood from a stone?

The best way to get closer is to do so slowly but persistently. Ask questions. Open conversations about your oen experience. Share confidences. It's a long, slow journey that you can only take one step at a time but, the destination will be marvellous.